COACHING

Estrangement from a family member can be extremely painful. My research shows 1 in 5 families will experience an estrangement, and it is said to be as common as divorce. Yet very few people talk about it openly. 

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If you are reading this, I imagine you may have felt that if someone isn't talking to me, or doesn't show me love and care, I must be a wrong or unlovable human in some way. I am wrong for not being able to cope. These are some of the most common limiting beliefs we hold.

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 Humans are a tribal and relational species. We often compromise our health and values to stay in connection to those we were born to or that we created. There is something counter-intuitive about not being in touch with biological family. Yet sometimes the only way to survive is by separating oneself from an unsafe situation or accepting someone's decision to take space.  ​

From the urge to be part of a healthy tribe we can spend a lot of energy in trying to get others back into our life or trying to change them.

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The positive news for those who feel powerless, wrong, or who are holding out for someone to change, is that the work of personal healing during estrangement doesn't have to involve someone else. There are steps you can take and you only need you and the willingness to move forward.